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My Cheerful List #23


Welcome back to My Cheerful List. A chance to share with you something which has made me cheerful during the week, whether it be large or small, it is important to find something good even when it feels impossible. Thank you for joining me! We have reached week 22!


Support Group

Just under two years ago, I took the plunge and set up a face to face support group for pregnancy and infant loss; it has been a slow start, and at times I wondered what I was doing. But more recently people have been coming and I am really proud of what it is achieving. In a selfish point of view has made me feel less alone. I am so pleased I didn’t give it up. I have so much more I want to do, but it really is a case of one very slow step at a time; with a hint of frustration of not getting the things I want to get done quicker! Overactive mind I guess. Any, I am so proud of this little group.



This month’s group I invited a local businesswoman, she does embroidery amongst other things. I asked her for a very special bear; one with our daughter’s name on. They’re so amazing; we will get one each for them all. They are incredibly soft too. Yes, we are very happy with our new special bear.

Mumble Memory Bear



The group – Little Daffodils I run was included in our local carnival grants, so I had to go and collect the cheque along with a cheque for the majorettes with some of the committee team. I hate public speaking, I get all shaky and stutter – it seems to NEVER get easier!! We did have a lovely time, and turned it into a bit of a social gathering too.


It was the majorette bingo this week, as always a lot of fun. We had a good team and my daughter even won some Quality Street sweets which she was super excited about.


Mum’s Cheerful Day Out

Every couple of months my friend and I go and spend a few hours together without the children. We went to a New to You Sale; we then went for a light lunch. It was just lovely, dare I say it a little too peaceful! I managed to get my almost 5 year old a bag full of dresses and my son an outfit for just under £20. Nothing wrong with them, just preloved, she certainly loves them.


What a better week, looking forward to the half term break now, will see what it’ll bring.

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My Cheerful List #20

Welcome back to My Cheerful List. A chance to share with you something which has made me cheerful during the week, whether it be large or small, it is important to find something good even when it feels impossible. Thank you for joining me! We have reached week 20!

The Impossible

So, I have found that first “impossible week,” where I am struggling to find something cheerful during my week. It has felt quite the opposite if I am honest. I have been absolutely exhausted this week; with no signs of it getting much better. Both my mind and my body shattered; which led to full body aches and pains; and as I write this I am currently suffering from tonsillitis; with Friday just gone being the worst affected – which made me feel guilty with it being my lovely husband’s birthday.

I know nobody enjoys being ill, but I hate it and constantly counting down to when I should be better again; then it frustrates me when I don’t.



I have done extra shifts this week, and have repeated volunteering at the school too; which is lovely. I have now been given a regular set of children I get to work with. I am trying to get used to them all calling out “Mrs S…” when I arrive. It is amazing!


Nurses Appointment

I had an appointment with the nurse this week; not one for visiting the doctors or surgery; I try to avoid if I can help it. But I had a long overdue smear test appointment; I knew I needed to get it done. I suffer from health anxiety – it is horrible, it puts me on edge a lot; so it hasn’t been the procedure that has out me off, it is the outcome. Obviously, I now have that wait for the results; I just have to hope that they are okay.

I walked in; she asked why I hadn’t been in for a while for my smear, then I began to cry. Everything came pouring out from the health anxiety, how it stems from losing M. She listened – for the first time in a long time, I actually felt like my words were being heard. She explained how what I am going through is a form of PTSD. I need to try and take care of myself. There were some other things said, which my husband and I need to talk over, it just felt nice to be spoken to and listened to in a sensitive manner, having lost all faith in the support system. It felt comforting.



As I said above it hasn’t been an overly cheerful week; but I am incredibly lucky to have my family, they somehow always find a way to make me feel cheerful. My son enjoyed his new scooter – a belated birthday present. The husband seemed to enjoy his birthday presents too.

My eldest daughter had a parents evening this week; it was very positive. She has chosen her G.C.S.E subjects; which he will begin in September.

So, even when the week has mostly been rubbish. I have managed to find something cheerful this week.


I have some posts which went live this week here they are in case you missed them.

Working Mum and Stay At Home Mum

Flash Fiction Friday –This one I had an amazing response to; which has now given me some ideas.


And I revived from Melody and Me as it appeared on my Time Hop

What Day Would You Want To Live Again?

Have a good week.

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My Cheerful List #19

Welcome back to My Cheerful List. A chance to share with you something which has made me cheerful during the week, whether it be large or small, it is important to find something good even when it feels impossible. Thank you for joining me! We have reached week 19.


New Term

The children returned to school this week; I always feel a little hint of sadness when they return; due to missing them. They drive me nuts a lot of the time but love it when they are all home. I guess I do cheat a little by seeing them whilst I work.


Back To Work

I love my job, working with children is something I never imagined myself doing, yet I am going into my 3rd year of working there. It is lovely for the social/adult interaction too; which I think we can all benefit from time to time – providing they’re your right kind of people! I began doing volunteering this week; going in to help the children read. It was amazing, such a privilege to be working with them.


Baby Red

It has been lovely to have some one to ones with the littlest this week. She is such a Mummy’s girl, and times she can be really hard work as she really only ever wants me; which brings me to one of my favourite moments of the week, where she was in the bath and I decided to join her; her face lit up. She used to love Mummy and baby baths when she was months old.




As a birthday treat for my son, we decided to take him and a friend to bowling; along with my Mother In Law. They all had an amazing time and loved every minute. With a McDonald’s for afterwards. We don’t do bowling nearly enough, Baby wasn’t overly keen, but she did enjoy watching and was well behaved.


A Cheerful Birthday Boy

My son turns 10 today. These years have gone so quickly; doesn’t seem long ago that he was having Mummy and baby bath times and cuddles. My only boy, he does get picked on a fair bit with so many girls in the house, but he also gets mothered by them at times too. He is such a gentleman and a sensitive little chap. I am very proud to be his Mum.

A birthday boy


I managed some other posts this week.

If you fancy a read here are the links

National Kiss a Ginger Day

Fiction Friday – Ruins


Thank you for reading I hope you have had a good week.


Mrs S


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My Cheerful List – #16. Christmas.

Welcome back to My Cheerful List. Each Sunday I share with you things that have made me cheerful during this past week. In times where life can feel overwhelming, it is nice to try and find something, even if it is one thing that has made us Cheerful. Week 16.

I am once again unsure of where this week has gone; there hasn’t been a great deal of things I have done this week. But what I have I will list.

Final Week of Term

Once again the week has gone so quick. Which is good as the term has been an incredibly long one, and quite hard on the children too. Still we’re glad it is done, and that they’re now home for a few weeks; which is the best part.

Christmas Work Do

The Dinner Ladies all went out for the evening, it was lovely; not something we do very often, but it was lovely and we’re planning on doing more. They really are a lovely bunch of women.

Christmas Crackers

Final Work Days

I know a little work related, but it was a real lovely time at work this week. The children all very excited for the coming week; but most of all was that the fundraisers for the school (“Friends of…”) had raised enough money for all the children who don’t normally have hot lunches to have them and not charge the parents. They each had a lovely Christmas Dinner, followed by Chocolate Cake and Custard. Was busy trying to feed the whole school in a short pace of time, but they really did seem to enjoy every single minute. It was lovely being a part of it.


Cheerful Festivities

On the final day of term a friend and I went to our local farm shop for a spot of cake; which was lovely; followed by in the evening with my eldest and different friends a spot of late night shopping. It was crazy; I am definitely relieved to have not needed a lot, I have really enjoyed shopping throughout the year and will do so again next year – it certainly made things a lot easier; although I will do the stockings earlier, as it is my least favourite thing to do; I don’t even know why!


Christmas Play

Mini and Baby were invited to have a paly around Mini’s friend’s house, with other children. They both had a brilliant time, food, dress up lots of giggles and fun, neither of the wanted to leave.


First Gift of Christmas

Another year of visiting of a grave of a daughter we only got to know for a short while. It generally hasn’t gotten easier, especially this time of year.

grief at Christmas

Christmas Eve today, although we’re not having our Christmas Day until Boxing Day this year, so we have an extra day to wait.

I hope you all have a safe and wonderful Christmas.

Merry Christmas to you all, thank you for reading.


My Cheerful-Christmas List #15 One week left!

Welcome back to My Cheerful List. Each Sunday I share with you things that have made me cheerful during this past week. In times where life can feel overwhelming, it is nice to try and find something, even if it is one thing that has made us Cheerful. Week fifteen.

I am once again unsure of where this week has gone; there hasn’t been a great deal of things I have done this week. But what I have I will list.


Mum’s Night Out

It was a Christmas evening out with Mums who have children in reception. It isn’t something I have done before; or thought I would go to that one. But I pushed any anxieties I had and just went with it. I am glad I did; I didn’t drink; but it was nice to go out with different people.



Mini had her first ever nativity this week; although she didn’t want to be a traveller; she did seem to enjoy being on the stage. She looked like she enjoyed the singing. It, to me did feel incredibly bittersweet; how I should have had a nativity last year. When I went to my son’s first I was newly bereaved and pregnant with Mini. How everything changes; everything is so different, but we’re all the same too.


Cheerful Special Visitors

Thanks to Somerset Charity Towards Tomorrow Together the children had a visit from Father Christmas’ helpers in a form of a fairy and an elf. My older two were away for the night, but were left parcels. The younger two loved it; they had a story read for them as well as their own parcels too.

Cheerful, Christmas fairy and elf.  

Majorette Christmas Party

End of year party for my children’s troupe. I had a wonderful time with the other girls from setting up through to dancing the night away, and packing away too. The children seemed to have had a wonderful time too; we barely saw them.

Christmas Decoration.


Fundraising Bingo

Our final 2017 majorette event; it was a fun evening at our annual Christmas Bingo; busy but good fun.


Not sleeping particularly well lately; so I do hope this week will bring better nights rest!

Hope you have a good week, that it isn’t too stressful. This time next week it will be Christmas Eve!

Thank you for reading My Cheerful List.



My Cheerful List – Week 14

Welcome back to my Cheerful List. Each Sunday I share with you things that have made me cheerful during this past week. In times where life can feel overwhelming, it is nice to try and find something, even if it is one thing that has made us Cheerful. Week Fourteen.

The week hasn’t been overly full of things which I have done. The week has certainly gone by super-fast!


Christmas Night Out: Take One

Majorette Committee night out was last Sunday evening; we had a brilliant time – well as company; We didn’t go much on the place we chose to spend the evening, without mentioning the venue, we’d most likely not go again. They were very slow in service (minimal customers), and quite pricy. BUT as an outing; I cannot remember the last time I laughed as much as I did, tears and almost struggling for breath. It was lovely. We talk all the time and work together for the troupe; but we don’t really socialise a lot outside; we’re all really busy; it is wonderful when we do.


Carol Concert

My young man is in the school choir, this week they got to perform in our local Guildhall along with three other schools, as per normal it was brilliant; he loves every bit of performing he can. He did also have a DVD showing of a “university” project; but unfortunately bad Mama forgot! But he forgave me.  Once the concert had finished we treated the children to dinner out.


Christmas Preparation

This weekend I had attempted to blitz the upstairs of our house, being ruthless and donating or throwing things which we no longer use. I am looking forward to decorating in the New Year; a complete overhaul I think. Present wrapping is almost completed too.


Girls Day Out

Today (Sunday), a friend and I took our four and three year old out for the day; took them to do a little shopping, some lunch at McDonald’s (their choice), then the best bit – a cinema trip; we watched Paddington 2. Now I will admit; I love the books, I love the bear and even the series growing up; but wasn’t overly keen on the first Paddington. But I really, really enjoyed the second one; so did my girlie. It was lovely.

Cheerful Moments

This week the husband and I decided to perform random acts of kindness, donations to the school, candy cane bombing and a third – which I am happy to stay anonymous for; although it was lovely to watch from a distance to see it was received well. We’re going to do two more, which we can’t decide exactly what yet – but it is of course in memory of Melody. We haven’t found a gift we like for her this year; we simply couldn’t do anything for her; so we decided to do things for others instead. One for each week she was with us.



I hope your week has been kind to you. We have so far had no rain – but I can see we will be needing boats before long as the local rivers begin to burst.

Stay safe. Have a good week.


My Cheerful List #13

Welcome back to my Cheerful List. Each Sunday I share with you things that have made me cheerful during this past week. In times where life can feel overwhelming, it is nice to try and find something, even if it is one thing that has made us Cheerful. Week thirteen!


The week once again begun with sickness, but thankfully not for long with a swift return to work. It certainly has been a long couple of weeks.

To be honest there hasn’t really been a lot to report this week; the various bugs has left me fairly tired, and not much energy to do a lot.


Being cooped up for days, lead me to needing to get out walking the school run again, definitely helps bring the energy levels up. I don’t drive when it is icy; I am not a huge fan of driving, so I will be walking a lot more.



I have never had any real confidence; it is always been something that has bothered me. So I popped a status on my personal Facebook page; just as a release.

What’s on my mind? I wish I had more confidence. Setting up Little Daffodils and being committee for Majorettes have helped greatly. I’ve never really found making friends easy. I often find myself standing away from the crowd, at school or other social situations. I’m not rude, or at least I try not to be. I guess I’m awkward, to the point where I felt I wanted to change Kelsi’s choice of school, I thought it would be easier. I’m glad I didn’t because I wouldn’t have met the Mums I now have. I am not really sure what I’m saying to be honest. “I’m not crazy, my reality is just different from yours.” that’s the truth. I am actually nice. If a Mum has her face in her phone or stood away from the crowd it’s not because she’s rude, it’s most likely nerves. No particular reason to post this, just an outlet rather than on my blog. Why the hell are school runs such a mountain? . Anxieties are a bastard, but am grateful for the Mums who make it better. !”


Something I wasn’t expecting happened – friends, new and old replied how they too felt the same as I did. It was almost like a huge weight taken from me, I am not alone in the way I have been feeling. I am glad I opened up.


School Play

This week I was my son perform in his Year five play – Oliver Twist – NOT the musical, there was no watered down version – Bill Sykes really DID kill Nancy. My son played the part of Bill Sykes (along with two other boys); Most of the characters were played by more than one child, and Oliver was played by both boys and girls. They all worked so hard on it. He loved every moment; with even a decision to what he would like to do AFTER secondary school. A very proud Mama!

school play



Cheerful Days – Christmas

Work filled the week days, but as I said before; my energy levels are terribly low just now. Saturday we had our annual day out at a National Trust Property. We usually go with friends but sadly due to personal circumstances they were unable to join us – we really missed them though.

The theme at the house this year was Wind in The Willows, as always it was brilliant; which I will share more in the Christmas Series this week.

Tea Time

Afterwards we paid a visit to Exeter, and the children were AMAZING! So well behaved; it was a real pleasure to be out with them. Sometimes it can get very stressful; I am not perfect – far from it. But our outing was just lovely. It really was perfect.

Thank you for reading. Not long until Christmas.


cheerful christmas


My Cheerful List #12

Welcome back to my Cheerful List. Each Sunday I share with you things that have made me cheerful during this past week. In times where life can feel overwhelming, it is nice to try and find something, even if it is one thing that has made us Cheerful.


There are so many bugs going round at the moment, after I updated you last week, it started again. We had been symptom free for about 48 hours, only for it to return; we weren’t the only ones. Finally feeling well again with school and work return midweek; it has been incredibly draining.


Unfortunately as I come to post this, Mini and I have somehow been effected by food poisoning; not sure what. But here we go again! I better lose weight next week!


Final Majorette Event of the Year

Christmas lights switch on happened this week in Crewkerne; my children always enjoy this one; however my son wasn’t feeling particularly well, so he had to sit it out. The troupe leads Father Christmas through the main street, where he switches on the lights including their huge Christmas tree; which is always lovely.

light up shoesCrewkerne Christmas Tree


Christmas Decorating

This week we have decided to pop our decorations up – I know it is the end of November, but we have in recent years done this; only a week before December anyway! The children loved it. Baby was excited, but definitely a little confused by our new corner piece.

Christmas Tree

Christmas is coming! I’ve almost completed Christmas Shopping.


Cheerful Evening Out

My older two’s God Mother invited us to her Disco/Karaoke party. It was fun; we didn’t stay long; but was nice to have been invited out. My son had an amazing time singing his favourite Bon Jovi song in front of an audience.


I really hope next week will be without sickness fueled updates. It’ll be December! Find our list of books for Bookmas!


My Cheerful List #11

Welcome back to my Cheerful List. Each Sunday I share with you things that have made me cheerful during this past week. In times where life can feel overwhelming, it is nice to try and find something, even if it is one thing, that has made us Cheerful. In case you missed it here is #10.


Unfortunately, sickness has hit us. With Mini missing Thursday and Friday due to vomiting; Friday night baby’s vomiting begun.
Unfortunately I am an emetiphobe. As well as a fear of Spiders, being sick and seeing sick leaves me in fear too. It’s horrible, I feel a little useless when it comes to being a mum!
Of course baby only wanted Mama.
It has been a very long few days.

Forde Abbey

Before the bug hit, we managed a trip out to a local house and garden.
Although I’ve lived here most of my life, I don’t recall ever going. During November it has been low cost opening, with Wednesdays being free.

Forde abbey
Forde Abbey was a hit. Baby wasn’t overly cooperative, wasn’t in the mood for listening, but she did seem to love it.
Mummy slid down a hill, managing to get mud EVERYWHERE! Was okay initially but think I’ve maybe knocked something in my arm.
I couldn’t grip to get up.
Only me.
Would still go again,their fountain was beautiful.

Definitely worth a visit. I hope to return in the Summer; although the Autumn colours are every bit as beautiful.

Forde Abbey


Friendship. Cheerful times.


A friend and I took a visit to a new Aldi store in the next town, although it was almost 7pm when new arrived the shop was really busy, definitely a much anticipated store opening. I think I prefer the one I usually go to. But it is handy to know there is one there. It is always good fun going out with this one.


The husband and I managed a couple of hours away – together no tiny humans! Meeting with friends it was lovely to just be out, we could definitely do with more of those! Love this guy.




Few written pieces involving her this week. Children’s Grief Awareness Week, World Prematurity Day. I decided to talk about her on my personal Facebook page, I don’t very often these days, because I worry too much about what friends and family think –  I shouldn’t because she is our daughter. It was nice to get lovely feedback, and encouragement.

It isn’t attention seeking, which is what I worry about people thinking; and certainly isn’t the sort of attention I would like. I am just a Mum talking about ALL of her children.


What has made your week, cheerful? Even if it is something small, it always worth celebrating.


My Cheerful List #10

Welcome back to My Cheerful List, number ten already! Did you see week nine? It is a chance to share with you what has made me cheerful during the last week, whether it is big or small. In a world where life can seem overwhelming at times, it can be hard to find things which have made you cheerful.

This is my week.


Winter Colds

They have appeared to have moved in this week. With Mini having a nasty cough; enough to have a day away from school. I am not keen on keeping them off; but she really wasn’t feeling particularly well. A day a way- although having to go to her Grandparents whilst I worked did her some good. Whilst Baby ended up with it too, unfortunately it always seems to affect her chest in a different way, making her struggle to breathe, and wheezy. With a trip to the Doctors to be told it is viral wheezing, with a view that maybe in the future she could need an inhaler. Absolutely hate it when they’re poorly.



I have almost completed my Christmas Shopping, and have now begun the wrapping. There are some items still to buy, but not a lot. I cannot believe it is just next month. There are just 49 days left of 2017. Where is the time going?



Visited her this week. I was in the area and felt the need to visit. Took her some artificial flowers, which I swore I would never give her; but here I am having left her some in the hope they will last and look prettier during the time when I’m not feeling particularly brave about visiting. I feel guilty when I don’t; you know in the way where you miss out on a school play or something. I know people don’t understand why I feel guilty; because – well she is dead and has been for five and a half years I probably “should be over it by now”. But as much as she isn’t here, I still want to parent her, she is still my child. I do not believe she is everywhere; I guess this is the part I struggle with. But I am okay with that. Because it isn’t a particularly hard struggle. It is just me, the way I feel. I felt her life leave her. I did over the Summer feel her, it was wonderful. It is definitely changing.



Cheerful Journey

We finally got around to watching a carnival this year. I think our last one was about two years ago. We went to watch North Petherton; it was amazing. Completely different to the circuit the children do with majorettes. It is a lot bigger, with more extravagance in the floats; with no majorettes.

It pissed down. It was that fine wet rain (if you have ever seen Peter Kay you will understand), the stuff that soaks you through; even my bra was wet after having a t-shirt, thick fleece and a waterproof coat on. But it was absolutely worth it. The journey there, where my lovely friend drove; I witnessed my older two (I only took the older two to watch), laugh together for the first time in a long time, where they weren’t bickering. Proper full on belly laughs; for a good 10 minutes. It was a simply due to seeing a slightly older passenger in another car nodding her head along to (possibly) some music – not in spite I must add –she was having a great time, she reminded me a little of Flat Eric; Do you remember him?

It certainly tickled them a lot. It was wonderful to see, and definitely a “had to be there moment”.



The carnival itself, was amazing; I am so pleased we went, the floats were amazing. I cannot believe we have never been to this one before. We’re going to take the little ones I think next year. If you’re on my Facebook Page; I did go live with a couple of the floats. If you’re on my Page please take a look. The clubs all work so hard, and the details that goes into making them look perfect. I can’t imagine how difficult it is to get them moving.

It is a unique experience, and is definitely worth a visit. There’s still a few more to go this season, if you haven’t been go…Here are a couple, due to the rain, I chose to just use my phone, so most didn’t come out very well.


With the carnival theme; it brings a great way to make friends. Meeting these guys through Majorettes, I hope lifelong friends. So many people do moan about carnivals and in particular majorettes; but it is friendships I’m so glad I have them in my life.


What has made you cheerful this week? My husband has made a new blog – why not pop over and take a look.

Hope you have a lovely week.

Tomorrow I share my 12 year old daughter’s Christmas Wish List, be sure to check it out!

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