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January 2018 Favourites

The first month of 2018 is over, it has been a slow, wet and miserable one; with lots of thoughts to the Spring and the Summer! They seem so far away. Here are my January favourites.

In Sickness and In Health

We have certainly pushed these vows quite hard this month; poorly stomachs, anxieties; my husband continually suffering from his leg ulcer and a bout of tonsillitis in the mix too! It has not been a fun start to the year. I really hope it will only get better. I don’t have the patience to be poorly.

New Diet

I made the decision to cut meat from my diet; I used to be a vegetarian but when I was pregnant I craved real meaty spaghetti bolognese; so I ended up returning to eating meat. I have never really been a big meat eater; would rarely venture aware from Chicken. So I decided to remove it altogether. Initially it was just for January but as we have reached the end, I now think this will be a new permanent thing. I don’t miss it at all! I hope by switching to a healthier lifestyle I will feel better and continue that way too.

Favourite Vegetarian Food This Month

Linda McCartney’s Meat-Free Roast; served as a roast with veg, very yummy!

Snacks would be celery and houmous.

Don’t get me wrong it hasn’t all been lettuce leaves and tomatoes, but a calorie counted in WHITE KitKat had to be allowed somewhere!


January Weigh-In

With the new diet in mind, of course being under the weather, plus taking on extra hours, it has all been a contributing factor to losing a little bit. I am not a big fan of the big companies where you pay for the privilege to lose weight, so I calorie count, introduce smaller portions, cut out the crap and drink more water – or at least drink less caffeine too.

This month I have lost 3.5kg which is: 7.7lb.

I am happy with that; it is a loss and not a gain.


Birthday Boys.

Who thought it would be a good idea to have a birthday in January?! Well, both my husband and my son’s birthdays are in January! I kind of feel sorry for them having it so close to Christmas; I know they’re not comparable to those who do have them in December, but it is still too close!

My boy’s birthday was the first out of the two. The up-side to having the January birthdays is if you missed something at Christmas, you can use their birthday as a back-up! His birthday haul included Minecraft Stories Xbox 360 game. Am I the only one who simply does not get Minecraft? Even less the part where they watch other people on YouTube do it?! Maybe I am just getting old.

A dressing gown, books and a stunt scooter; which he absolutely loves so far!

We took him and a friend out for Bowling; they had a brilliant time.

Five days later, it was my husband’s turn. Check out his haul here – plus his weight-loss journey; he is doing amazingly.


January’s Blog Posts – My favourites.

I am trying desperately to find my mojo again, so attempting to continue to blog regularly AND keep up with it.

This month I started Flash Fiction Friday; which has so far gone really well. I have also shared a couple of one-off pieces too.

Take a look!

The Fall of Terra

National Kiss a Ginger Day

Working Mum vs Stay at Home Mum


I also have written on my other blog too

Please Bear With Me.


I hope the start of 2018 been a decent start for you all.

Thank you for reading and sticking around.

Don’t forget My Cheerful List runs every Sunday and Flash Fiction each Friday.

National Kiss A Ginger Day

Apparently, it would seem this is a thing, it is a day in January to “celebrate gingers”.
I was horribly teased throughout my whole school life, repeatedly called carrot top, or ginger (pronounced with a hard G). People didn’t have a nice thing to say about it.
Even my Mum “joked” that she asked the nurses if I was hers because I am ginger.
It was bloody horrible. I spent so long growing up wondering what the hell I had done wrong, why I was so hated, why my hair colour was so disgusting – or at least that was how I felt because of how much I was teased.

It does set you up, forever, even friends had a go, of course looking back, they weren’t really friends to be doing that.
People had a fascination with wanting to know if we had ginger pubes (or ginger bollocks if you were a lad). But children, adults find it acceptable to ask because we’re ginger, in all fairness, it’s harassment, why people feel the need to know such personal things is beyond me.
I have never understood the ginger discrimination,

neither has anyone else ever had a valid reason to do so either.

“It’s different.”
“It’s ugly.”
“You’re disgusting.”
None of which are valid points to make another human being feel disgusting and unloved.

I don’t think society has changed, as far as I know, my children haven’t been bullied for their hair, which I’m glad about, but that could be because there are more in schools (we’re pretty damn hot).
But I do still hear adults make snide remarks about ginger hair, it only rubs off into the next generation. As someone who deals with baby loss families, I’ve even heard baby loss mums say about their own child “at least they weren’t ginger”. Very unpleasant.
It’s sad and bloody hurtful.

I may be oversensitive, overreacting, but when you have had a lifetime of teasing because of your hair colour, it gives you every right to be sensitive; but at the same time, it gives me the right to stand up for myself.

I’m a redhead, and now I love it, I love it more because all of my children have red hair, although the daughter we lost had strawberry blonde.
National Kiss a Ginger Day? Remember that there could be a redhead out there being teased, being forced to be kissed by some bully because to them it’s funny.

There is nothing wrong with having ginger hair-nothing. The only people who are wrong are those who ridicule others. That’s ugly.

Hot Red Heads

Kevin McKidd
Florence Welch
Ed Sheeran
Prince Harry
Tim Minchin
Kate Walsh
Sarah Drew

So many more!

Facebook Couple

He is my Soul Mate.


I am not “A ginger”. I am a person.

We are bloody awesome!!


Why Do I Blog?

Sometimes I have absolutely no idea why. More often or not I am not even sure if they’re ever being read.


I began my internet blogging journey five years ago writing about the start of my pregnancy after the loss of Melody. I’d already written using pen and paper Melody’s pregnancy, birth and life. I had spent so much time behind a computer screen speaking to people on forums and Facebook groups, it felt at the time like an extension, or at least something to compliment what I was already in discussions about.

Having a pregnancy after the loss of an infant was terrifying, coupled with HG made everything so isolating, which left me alone. Due to the pregnancy being so close to the loss of Melody my words of terror during pregnancy actually turned into words about the grief for her.

October 2012 I took part in my very first grief project (Capture Your Grief); it was here I fell in love with the idea of documenting my relationship with grief, living with it. I knew then it was something I needed to do, whether it was read by people, which was a different matter, if the posts were read then even better. For me it meant that I was hopefully helping someone, whether they had their own grief, or just struggled to understand mine.

For a long time I focused solely on this blog, it became my niche, I felt confident about talking about her, it has helped me so much.


I made a decision to share family life too, as a way of making memories, and I guess to compliment Melody and Me in a way that parenting after loss is very, very different to that of how parenting was before.

I love, love writing, and most of the time it is probably crap, sometimes I try to be funny…I’m not.

I just would like to be read, the blogging community is huge, and to be a small part of that is great, I do know I have a lot more to learn and a lot of confidence building.

Some things will be changing (again – sorry) over the next couple of months, but that is simply because I really am learning on the job, which is what I hope this will become one day.


Thank you for sticking by my month of prompts; although I did schedule some of them ahead of the days, I have enjoyed taking part.

I hope you have enjoyed reading them, and getting to know your author that little bit more.

Maybe I will do another soon.


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I do have some very exciting news coming in the Next 24 hours for both of these blogs. I am just hoping I have made the right decision… Eek!

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If I Won The Lottery

If I won the lottery, I would still go to work, I’d maybe pay to enhance my career; maybe a teaching course, at the very least Teacher Assistant training.

If I were to win the lottery, I would still shop in Aldi, I am used to their foods, I like the shop, their bargains.

If I were to win the lottery, I’d love to take my family on holiday.

If I won the lottery I’d encourage my husband to take leave from his employment, he loves writing too, it would be a wonderful thing for him to pursue something he loves too.

Would look in to what changes could happen with saving babies, change in policies.

Would maybe move from where we live.

It would just be nice to live without counting too much on how full our purses are.


Of course it isn’t about the big wins.

£10 I’d probably buy a couple of bars of chocolate for the children and maybe some stationery.

Nothing exciting; I’d like to be able to live comfortably, and help friends and family.


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Fifteen of my favourite things

My family

The home in which I live. My husband with ALL of my children are my world, plus our two cats. We’re as one. It is busy, loud and often crazy here, but I couldn’t stand for it to be any other way.

Being happy

No explanation really.

Grey’s Anatomy

Sad as it may seem but it really helped me escape daily life. My husband brought me a bundle of the box sets for my 30th birthday, we had not long lost our daughter, I was pregnant again, suffering with pains, vomiting and grief, it helped give me some sanity.


I have always loved it. From English assignments, to diary writing, I may not have been very regular with that, but it has been a huge form of therapy for me over the years. I was in a volatile relationship before my first husband, and writing letters to friends, conversations helped me to get things out. I had a break down just before be split, writing really helped.  Of course it has gone on to help me through my grief and loss.


I have always loved this too. I assisted at weddings as a teen did my work experience there too. I love being behind the camera, capturing images, posed or natural.

Summer Days

Warm Summer days where you can either just remain at home, drag the paddling pool out, and the BBQ, invite friends over. Or the days you can pack the car so full, it can take you anywhere, the beach, the countryside, a theme park. Summer helps things be more open.

Making Memories

As above with the Summery Days, but what you do, the rainy days can also be just as fun splashing about in muddy puddles, or staying at home with a DVD and a board game.

Listening to Music

I love all sorts of music, I don’t really have one set of genre that I favour over others, I used to love Rock music only, but I have furthered what I now like, I’m open to so much. Music takes you anywhere, brings tears, and gives laughter.

My Job

Although I have children, I never would have imagined ever working with them. I had worked in the care industry for many; many years even contemplated becoming a Nurse. But then things changed, there was no way I could be the warm person to do that job any more. There was a job advertised not long after our youngest was born, and I entered the world of working with children.


I have always loved Christmas, love the magic; I’d like to make it as magical as possible for them for me too. I have almost completed my Christmas Shopping for this year. The decorations, the food all of it, is perfect.


 (Although we don’t do this often enough)

We have our next camping trip coming up really soon, we’re really excited, we meet up with members of my husband’s family have a giggle, eat food and have some drink; until the next year.

The smell of “thundery” rain

When there is a storm brewing, the type with the heat, where thunder comes too, it is such a wonderful smell.


I have a little bit of an obsession with stationery. I have so many notebooks, some have never even been used, they’re all so very pretty, I could probably find a reason to own all stationery. My favourite is my two journals with a photo of me and Melody. I received them when she was still alive.


They have always been my favourite animals, right from a little girl. I always wanted to visit Mrs Tiggy Winkle Hospital. I think they’re wonderful.

PC/Tablet gaming…The cheesier the better

I love things like Town Ship, Sims but I also love Assassin’s Creed just as much. I’m not a huge gamer; that and we currently don’t have a console, but it is another way to get lost in a world, where you can shut out the world.

“These are a few of my favourite things”

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This month has flown by, I’m looking through my photos, and I can’t believe how quickly it has gone by.

We were lucky enough to have some beautiful weather over the month, but also not so great, it is nothing new.

Our month kick started with a majorette display and a lovely BB with friends, to celebrate their daughter’s 18th birthday; I must admit I had been a while since I’d had that much fun.

We managed to squeeze in some strawberry picking and a trip to the park, the ground was wet and muddy but we were able to do one of our favourite annual things.

I’d picked up a couple of shifts at work, ones which will become more permanent in the new term, in between them I was able to visit our girl on a weekly basis – it isn’t something we do any more, in fact it is quite rare that we do visit, unless for special occasions or if her siblings ask.


A few things going on in the writing part of my life, as well as becoming a contributor for Still Standing Magazine, I’ve been once again shortlisted for a Butterfly Award. I am very honoured to have gotten this far again. I know there are far more deserving winners, but it’ll be a night away, maybe this time, I will brave a bit longer away. Last time we left the hotel by 6 am, I was nervous about leaving the children – with no reason to be. It is an experience, and a wonderful one at that.

My lovely new camera arrived this month too; I have been very lost without one. I love taking photos from my phone, but there really is nothing like taking them from a proper camera. It isn’t top of the range, but it will do me nicely for now.

I was lucky enough to be invited to watch a friend’s daughter on stage, a production through her college – Spamalot, it was brilliant I loved every minute.

July saw the final month of 2017 majorette competitions, we all had such a wonderful day –  the best even, the troupe members were all treated with a McDonald’s Supper followed by entertainment by their trainers and committee…singing our way home. Not forgetting the Piggy Back Races during the day.

It was a perfect ending to a brilliant competition season.

We took a trip to a National Trust Property, to make the most of the sunshine, a place for the smallest two to have a run around. We love Montacute; it has the loveliest of grounds, easy distance for us to just ’pop’ to for an afternoon walk.

End of term for the children. My eldest left her first year of secondary school, my son moving in to year five, and Mini moving from play school to Primary School in September.

It seems like such a long time coming. Although I have children already at school, due to co-parenting I have never really felt like a “school-run Mum”. Standing on the outside while my Son took his first day at school, it has never been what I had imagined being a school mum would be.

As our daughter begins her journey, I feel like I am beginning this new chapter with her, most siblings follow older siblings in classes at the school, but she won’t be; not that it matters– for us it really will be a whole new experience, new teachers, new classes, a chance to be that “school run mum”. We’re still keeping our options open about whether to keep her at the same school, but for now we’re okay with the choice we made, we know Mini will be happy.

I’m just glad that she gets to go to school.

Afternoon Tea with a friend filled one Saturday afternoon, it was wet, but we had a wonderful walk around the property, head over here to see some of the photos I took. It was nice to have such a relaxing afternoon.

My relaxing Saturday afternoon was followed by a mini fundraiser, in the form of two Tombola stands. One was for Majorettes and other for charity. It was incredibly wet, but worth it to get a spot of fundraising done.

My two older children went away with their Father for the week, I have been missing them terribly, I’m looking forward to the summer adventures ahead.

Final Saturday of the month brought the rain – again. A wet and very soggy Saturday. We did manage a morning out to the very lovely Pecorama in Beer. We didn’t stay particularly long this time due to the weather, but it is one of our favourite local attractions. It was strange going without my Biggest and the Boy, but we had a raffle prize to collect for our up and coming Fund Day, so we decided the girls may have liked a trip out.

Although the weather wasn’t in my favour, there are some amazing views from the attraction.

This pretty much rounds up our July 2017.

My first Magazine article over on Still Standing Magazine will be published on the 17th, while I have a post on Melody and Me scheduled in.

I’m looking forward to our August Adventures.


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