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march favourites

March Favourites

The third month of the year gone; it does seem to be flying by. This time of the year is always unpredictable with emotions. My mental health kind of fluctuates, I am very grateful to have my husband and children around.

 

Weather

Snow! And lots of it…twice. We haven’t had it here for many, many years; in fact it is the first time our now five year old (and two year old) have seen the white stuff. I can say they weren’t massively impressed, not as fun as what Elsa made out! The first lot of snow was mixed with an incredibly hard frost, even the cats couldn’t make food prints in it…mind you; they hated it too.

After a couple of weeks thinking that maybe that was our fair share, the snow returned. The second time, although predicated it was a shock! We have had so many snow warnings over the years; it is hard to know what to believe! It does look incredibly beautiful, but it is an inconvenience!

 

World Book Day

It was postponed from its original date due to a snow day. But it was Harry Potter themed in this house. My son went as Draco Malfoy (or mouthboy, as my daughter calls him). And our five year old went as Hermione, but we kind of cheated and went with her Deathly Hallows outfit – checked shirt and jeans, she was a heroine throughout.

 

Mother’s Day

Always bittersweet, not only minus one; but that I don’t have the greatest of relationships with my own Mum. My husband always knows how to spoil me for the children and his way to spoil me too. We took a visit to Primark in Bristol – it is huge! And met his Mum for lunch in Zaa Zaa Bazaar – and all you can eat restaurant, which has a huge range of foods from around the world. Perfect if you want to try something, but don’t want to purchase a whole meal.

 

Birthday Celebrations

One of our little girls turned five. I honestly do not know where the years go. It was her first one as a school girl, so spent the day at school with her friends. She was the only one to have a birthday that day; she was super excited about not having to share her day with anyone else. Snow was lingering for her birthday party; we weren’t sure whether it would go ahead. Thankfully it began with a light flurry and was able to continue. She, along with her friends had a wonderful time. For the first time we had the venue cater for the party, it cost a little bit extra, but it was so worth it – reduced the stress completely.

I cannot believe our little girl is five.

 

New Friendship

I was nervous about the new school run, and selfishly for me, I was worried I wouldn’t make any new friends. Well it would seem that I didn’t have to worry – as I have made some really lovely new friendships since our five year old started school. Some of us Mums went out for dinner and drinks, which was lovely; and we have made some lovely memories during the snow days. I can’t wait to make plans for the nicer weather; I am pretty sure BBQs and long evenings are in top of the list.

 

London Baby

One day I commented on a Facebook post, and shared a little bit of our daughter two weeks later we were travelling to London; a Hotel stay an interview and just the most amazing time. We ended up taking the two youngest due to snow days, they struggled with the travel a little but they really were so good. Our five year old love the whole thing, the hotel stay, watching Mummy and then Mummy and Daddy be interviewed on the TV screens.

I don’t really want to say too much, but it is hopefully going to be a step forward in changing the way people including health care professionals treat families who have lost a baby who has lived; because sadly it is very different to how others are treated. It will apparently be their biggest campaign; I am really proud that my husband and I will be a part of this.

 

Majorettes

Competition season has begun for my children’s hobby. We have already hosted a competition and waiting the next one which is on the 8th April. They’re all very excited.

 

March Weight Loss

Well, it wasn’t as good as I know it could have been, just over one pound lost – a little disappointed but there isn’t anyone else to blame apart from me. A loss is a loss at the end of the day; I just need to do better! I am still being a vegetarian and haven’t really tried anything new this month; we did have macaroni cheese for the first time in years. It was delicious.

 

Blog Posts

I haven’t really done a lot on this blog over the past month, I am trying desperately to tidy both this one and Melody and Me up to look a lot more presentable – I maybe spent a little too long than anticipated on this – procrastination at its finest! So this would be the best written post by me in March.

Decode

 

Photography

Here are some of my “human-free” photos which I took during March, if only it was more Spring focused, they’re more winter themed than Spring!

 

scenery

 

my cheerful list

My Cheerful List #30 Easter Holidays Week One.

Welcome back to My Cheerful Post. A place to share cheerful moments which have made us smile during the week. In times where it seems impossible, it can be helpful to find something, no matter how small that moment is. Here is week 30.

 

It doesn’t seem possible that I have reached week 30 of these weekly cheerful posts.

Unfortunately it hasn’t been an exciting week to celebrate a big number. But it has been okay.

 

Chicken Pox

We had been looking forward to Easter break for ages; two days in and the spots arrive a couple to begin with, which made us unsure of whether it would be the dreaded pox. But the next day more appeared, even more – it was very obvious that it had arrived. One child left to catch it. She has been in very good spirits, only suffering when her temperature spiked and she itched a little.

I am one of those parents who would have vaccinated had we had the money. Childhood illnesses are so unpredictable per child; they always worry me. I’m just relieved she’s been okay, just hope the youngest one will be too.

 

April fool’s Day

This week has been the inevitable lead up to the anniversary of our daughter’s death. I have done my upmost best to keep as buy as I could. I can’t stop and think; I can no longer stop and think about the unimaginable – because it isn’t the unimaginable to us. Anyway I can’t drown here; there is a post here which went live this morning. I can’t fall apart.

 

Time Together.

Being unable to leave the house, we have had time at home. The children have done things together, cake making, film watching. Just being together has been lovely. My son had a hospital appointment; we’ve to wait on allergy testing before ENT will decide on the next step for his enlarged adenoids.

 

Room Decorating

We finally have started the decorating process in the girls’ bedroom. The walls themselves are now a magnolia colour, but will finish with a theme that all the girls will love – I will let you know how that goes.

 

Easter

Of course, this year Easter has fallen on Melody’s anniversary, it is usually quite close to her anniversary anyway, that and the anniversary of my Dad’s passing, and most importantly my eldest daughter’s birthday Easter is usually the last thing on my mind.

They’ve all had chocolate, an Easter Egg hunt in the house and a new DVD – Paddington Bear 2. It had been peaceful.

Easter Holidays

Hope you have had a reasonable week.

January 2018 Favourites

The first month of 2018 is over, it has been a slow, wet and miserable one; with lots of thoughts to the Spring and the Summer! They seem so far away. Here are my January favourites.

In Sickness and In Health

We have certainly pushed these vows quite hard this month; poorly stomachs, anxieties; my husband continually suffering from his leg ulcer and a bout of tonsillitis in the mix too! It has not been a fun start to the year. I really hope it will only get better. I don’t have the patience to be poorly.

New Diet

I made the decision to cut meat from my diet; I used to be a vegetarian but when I was pregnant I craved real meaty spaghetti bolognese; so I ended up returning to eating meat. I have never really been a big meat eater; would rarely venture aware from Chicken. So I decided to remove it altogether. Initially it was just for January but as we have reached the end, I now think this will be a new permanent thing. I don’t miss it at all! I hope by switching to a healthier lifestyle I will feel better and continue that way too.

Favourite Vegetarian Food This Month

Linda McCartney’s Meat-Free Roast; served as a roast with veg, very yummy!

Snacks would be celery and houmous.

Don’t get me wrong it hasn’t all been lettuce leaves and tomatoes, but a calorie counted in WHITE KitKat had to be allowed somewhere!

 

January Weigh-In

With the new diet in mind, of course being under the weather, plus taking on extra hours, it has all been a contributing factor to losing a little bit. I am not a big fan of the big companies where you pay for the privilege to lose weight, so I calorie count, introduce smaller portions, cut out the crap and drink more water – or at least drink less caffeine too.

This month I have lost 3.5kg which is: 7.7lb.

I am happy with that; it is a loss and not a gain.

 

Birthday Boys.

Who thought it would be a good idea to have a birthday in January?! Well, both my husband and my son’s birthdays are in January! I kind of feel sorry for them having it so close to Christmas; I know they’re not comparable to those who do have them in December, but it is still too close!

My boy’s birthday was the first out of the two. The up-side to having the January birthdays is if you missed something at Christmas, you can use their birthday as a back-up! His birthday haul included Minecraft Stories Xbox 360 game. Am I the only one who simply does not get Minecraft? Even less the part where they watch other people on YouTube do it?! Maybe I am just getting old.

A dressing gown, books and a stunt scooter; which he absolutely loves so far!

We took him and a friend out for Bowling; they had a brilliant time.

Five days later, it was my husband’s turn. Check out his haul here – plus his weight-loss journey; he is doing amazingly.

 

January’s Blog Posts – My favourites.

I am trying desperately to find my mojo again, so attempting to continue to blog regularly AND keep up with it.

This month I started Flash Fiction Friday; which has so far gone really well. I have also shared a couple of one-off pieces too.

Take a look!

The Fall of Terra

National Kiss a Ginger Day

Working Mum vs Stay at Home Mum

 

I also have written on my other blog too

Please Bear With Me.

 

I hope the start of 2018 been a decent start for you all.

Thank you for reading and sticking around.

Don’t forget My Cheerful List runs every Sunday and Flash Fiction each Friday.

kiss a ginger day

National Kiss A Ginger Day

ginger
Apparently, it would seem this is a thing, it is a day in January to “celebrate gingers”.
I was horribly teased throughout my whole school life, repeatedly called carrot top, or ginger (pronounced with a hard G). People didn’t have a nice thing to say about it.
Even my Mum “joked” that she asked the nurses if I was hers because I am ginger.
It was bloody horrible. I spent so long growing up wondering what the hell I had done wrong, why I was so hated, why my hair colour was so disgusting – or at least that was how I felt because of how much I was teased.

It does set you up, forever, even friends had a go, of course looking back, they weren’t really friends to be doing that.
People had a fascination with wanting to know if we had ginger pubes (or ginger bollocks if you were a lad). But children, adults find it acceptable to ask because we’re ginger, in all fairness, it’s harassment, why people feel the need to know such personal things is beyond me.
I have never understood the ginger discrimination,

neither has anyone else ever had a valid reason to do so either.

“It’s different.”
“It’s ugly.”
“You’re disgusting.”
None of which are valid points to make another human being feel disgusting and unloved.

I don’t think society has changed, as far as I know, my children haven’t been bullied for their hair, which I’m glad about, but that could be because there are more in schools (we’re pretty damn hot).
But I do still hear adults make snide remarks about ginger hair, it only rubs off into the next generation. As someone who deals with baby loss families, I’ve even heard baby loss mums say about their own child “at least they weren’t ginger”. Very unpleasant.
It’s sad and bloody hurtful.

I may be oversensitive, overreacting, but when you have had a lifetime of teasing because of your hair colour, it gives you every right to be sensitive; but at the same time, it gives me the right to stand up for myself.

I’m a redhead, and now I love it, I love it more because all of my children have red hair, although the daughter we lost had strawberry blonde.
National Kiss a Ginger Day? Remember that there could be a redhead out there being teased, being forced to be kissed by some bully because to them it’s funny.

There is nothing wrong with having ginger hair-nothing. The only people who are wrong are those who ridicule others. That’s ugly.

Hot Red Heads

Kevin McKidd
Florence Welch
Ed Sheeran
Prince Harry
Tim Minchin
Kate Walsh
Sarah Drew

So many more!

Facebook Couple

He is my Soul Mate.

 

I am not “A ginger”. I am a person.

We are bloody awesome!!

The Red Head Diaries

July

This month has flown by, I’m looking through my photos, and I can’t believe how quickly it has gone by.

We were lucky enough to have some beautiful weather over the month, but also not so great, it is nothing new.

Our month kick started with a majorette display and a lovely BB with friends, to celebrate their daughter’s 18th birthday; I must admit I had been a while since I’d had that much fun.

We managed to squeeze in some strawberry picking and a trip to the park, the ground was wet and muddy but we were able to do one of our favourite annual things.

I’d picked up a couple of shifts at work, ones which will become more permanent in the new term, in between them I was able to visit our girl on a weekly basis – it isn’t something we do any more, in fact it is quite rare that we do visit, unless for special occasions or if her siblings ask.

 

A few things going on in the writing part of my life, as well as becoming a contributor for Still Standing Magazine, I’ve been once again shortlisted for a Butterfly Award. I am very honoured to have gotten this far again. I know there are far more deserving winners, but it’ll be a night away, maybe this time, I will brave a bit longer away. Last time we left the hotel by 6 am, I was nervous about leaving the children – with no reason to be. It is an experience, and a wonderful one at that.

My lovely new camera arrived this month too; I have been very lost without one. I love taking photos from my phone, but there really is nothing like taking them from a proper camera. It isn’t top of the range, but it will do me nicely for now.

I was lucky enough to be invited to watch a friend’s daughter on stage, a production through her college – Spamalot, it was brilliant I loved every minute.

July saw the final month of 2017 majorette competitions, we all had such a wonderful day –  the best even, the troupe members were all treated with a McDonald’s Supper followed by entertainment by their trainers and committee…singing our way home. Not forgetting the Piggy Back Races during the day.

It was a perfect ending to a brilliant competition season.

We took a trip to a National Trust Property, to make the most of the sunshine, a place for the smallest two to have a run around. We love Montacute; it has the loveliest of grounds, easy distance for us to just ’pop’ to for an afternoon walk.

End of term for the children. My eldest left her first year of secondary school, my son moving in to year five, and Mini moving from play school to Primary School in September.

It seems like such a long time coming. Although I have children already at school, due to co-parenting I have never really felt like a “school-run Mum”. Standing on the outside while my Son took his first day at school, it has never been what I had imagined being a school mum would be.

As our daughter begins her journey, I feel like I am beginning this new chapter with her, most siblings follow older siblings in classes at the school, but she won’t be; not that it matters– for us it really will be a whole new experience, new teachers, new classes, a chance to be that “school run mum”. We’re still keeping our options open about whether to keep her at the same school, but for now we’re okay with the choice we made, we know Mini will be happy.

I’m just glad that she gets to go to school.

Afternoon Tea with a friend filled one Saturday afternoon, it was wet, but we had a wonderful walk around the property, head over here to see some of the photos I took. It was nice to have such a relaxing afternoon.

My relaxing Saturday afternoon was followed by a mini fundraiser, in the form of two Tombola stands. One was for Majorettes and other for charity. It was incredibly wet, but worth it to get a spot of fundraising done.

My two older children went away with their Father for the week, I have been missing them terribly, I’m looking forward to the summer adventures ahead.

Final Saturday of the month brought the rain – again. A wet and very soggy Saturday. We did manage a morning out to the very lovely Pecorama in Beer. We didn’t stay particularly long this time due to the weather, but it is one of our favourite local attractions. It was strange going without my Biggest and the Boy, but we had a raffle prize to collect for our up and coming Fund Day, so we decided the girls may have liked a trip out.

Although the weather wasn’t in my favour, there are some amazing views from the attraction.

This pretty much rounds up our July 2017.

My first Magazine article over on Still Standing Magazine will be published on the 17th, while I have a post on Melody and Me scheduled in.

I’m looking forward to our August Adventures.

 

The Red Head Diaries